(Picture: Twitter)Films and books would have you thinking that once boy meets girl and the pair fall passionately in love with each other, all arguments are resolved with sweet make-up sessions.
But welcome to 21st century love where arguments are virtual and end with ‘seen’ messages or being unfollowed on social media.
When sex and relationship blogger Dami Olonisakin asked her female followers on Twitter to reveal the times they poured their heart out to men, she was inundated with very relatable examples.
Women in their droves sent in the paragraphs and essays they texted romantic suitors.
Sadly for them, a lot were met with indifference and brutal one-liners from men.
‘It’s healthy to do,’ Dami explained to Metro.co.uk. ‘Opening up about how you feel to someone you’ve been romantic/sexual with is normal. We grow and learn over time who to display those feelings to. So yeah it’s cringey, but sometimes it can be necessary’.
So if you’ve got a long love letter in your Notes page, or have sent a long essay to a partner only to be met with those excruciating blue ticks, don’t worry, you’re not alone.
Crikey. pic.twitter.com/Y57riDqRpa— #TheBigOBook (@Oloni) March 25, 2019
Dami explained how it was her friend’s idea to get other women to submit their heartfelt essays.
‘I was on the phone to my friend reading a soppy love message I sent to a guy I had strong feelings for almost 10 years ago. We cringed together and laughed. It was mortifying, especially because he didn’t reply. So she asked me to get my followers to share times they too had poured their hearts out to guys who were undeserving.’
Here goes nothing pic.twitter.com/jbBX33vyPC— Buss Buss🌸 (@hrs_busayo) March 24, 2019
A lot of the messages were emotive and vulnerable and yet the recipient would reply with ‘okay’ or simply reveal that they already have a partner.
One guy just gave the woman the option of either being ignored or blocked. Another said it was his pride that stopped him from showing any affection.
The cruellest among them replied ‘lol’ to the messages.
Ps this isn’t me pic.twitter.com/681cutDylx— H (@L1l_me) March 23, 2019
Though the thread had us saying, ‘oh, honey’ and feeling second-hand rage and embarrassment, it also became a wholesome place full of encouraging words.
Plenty of people shared their stories of personal growth.
‘This whole thread breaks my heart!’ wrote one person. ‘To all the girls who sent this in and to all the girls going through this – if someone wants you, you will know! No questions, no essays, no begging. Don’t you ever let anyone make you think you’re not good enough.’
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