(Picture: Getty)Planning the perfect proposal, if there’s such a thing, is no easy feat.
One man thought he had it all mapped out; he flew his girlfriend to southeast Asia to celebrate three years of being together, he took her to see Angkor Wat in Cambodia, which was on her bucket list, and at the end of the day, they went back to the hotel and he proposed.
And although she said yes straight away, she went away to shower for a bit, came back, and said she had to take back her yes.
You might wonder why she decided to not marry him – was it too soon? Was he not the right guy for her? Did she simply not want to be married?
Well, it was none of those things. She just didn’t want to be proposed to in a hotel room.
The boyfriend wrote about his girlfriend’s surprising disappointment on Reddit trying to understand, just like the rest of us, why she wanted a do-over.
And now, he said, he’s wondering whether to break up with her or not as he’s been hurt by her candour.
(Picture: Getty)‘After a long day of hiking in the heat through ruins [of Angkor Wat] we retired back to our hotel and when we were alone together I proposed and she said yes,’ he wrote.
‘We kissed and I had planned to take her to the waterfall the next day to celebrate. She took a shower and I laid in bed thinking what an amazing day I just had and how I would get to spend the rest of my life with the women I loved.
‘When she came out of the shower however she was in tears. She handed me back the ring saying she couldn’t accept it because she didn’t want her memory of my proposal to be in a hotel room.’
‘I played it cool and said I understood but truthfully it hurt,’ he added.
‘It seems to me that I had offered her something of value. A lifelong commitment and partner. I took her halfway around the world and helped her cross off something she had wanted to do most of her adult life.
‘I felt that if she valued me it wouldn’t matter that the proposal wasn’t exactly what she wanted. It was me and our future together she was saying yes to and not my delivery.’
He revealed that she wanted another, better proposal whereby she would say yes but he admitted he was done. He was open to have her propose to him but was not planning to get down on one knee again himself.
(Picture: Getty)Asking fellow Redditors what he should do, he received almost the same advice from everyone. They told him to have a conversation with his partner and tell her that it doesn’t matter where the proposal happens, as long as they both love each other enough to want to be married.
Naturally, many people shared their own little imperfect proposals and how it all became a fond memory.
One woman wrote how her now-husband decided to ask her to marry him mid food sickness and vomiting all over the house. But she still said yes.
‘The place and the circumstances shouldn’t matter as much as the person and the life you’re planning to build together,’ she added.
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