Woman considers dumping date because he got into his Uber before hers arrived

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Woman considers dumping date because he got into his Uber before hers arrived



(Picture: Getty)A woman has taken to Mumsnet to share her outrage at a date who got into his own taxi rather than waiting for her to get one first.
The woman, who writes on behalf of a friend who feels this behaviour is cause never to see this man again, writes:
‘Ladies of MN (mumsnet), please may we put it to you for the casting vote as we’re in some disagreement. To cut a longish story short, the date had gone well until they were on Charing Cross Rd and his Uber came first so he got in it and just left my friend standing on the street!
‘Now he’s texting her to meet again. She’s inclined to not bother, I feel as if I agree with her, but two others here think she should give him another chance (citing excuses such as traffic, it’s hard for cabs to stop, etc).
‘WIBU? (Who is being unreasonable?) Shouldn’t he have called her a cab and seen her off before just sailing off into the night? By the way, we are all early 40s so she can’t be bothered messing about.
‘Thank you in advance.’
She then added a further post, reading: ‘No he didn’t call her a cab before his own. He just called his, so she had to call her own and then his came first so he buggered off.
‘Now he wants her to traipse to Hampstead (where he lives) on the weekend, but I bet he won’t send a cab for her. We think this is a “red flag.”’
‘The thread went on to reveal that the woman on the date is middle aged, lives in Chelsea and that it was a first date.
Most of the replies firmly stated that she was in the wrong, and that being left to get into a taxi on a busy, well lit road in central London was perfectly acceptable.
‘She’s a woman in her 40s. Why is she unable to get her own taxi?’
‘Why doesn’t she call her own cab? I’d find someone who called me a cab a creep, like those men who try to order for you in a restaurant. Nope.’
‘In this day and age it is NOT normal to expect your date to pay for your cab home.’
‘If he’d flagged a roadside taxi it would be polite to offer it to her first. And if in a dodgy area, also polite to wait until her transport showed up… however neither are the case and you and your friend are being snowflakes.
‘If Hampstead isn’t convenient for your friend, she simply needs to say “that’s not convenient for me, how about we meet somewhere round xxx”.
‘She is a grown up independent woman – act like one.’
‘TBH if a man hailed my cab for me and paid for it in advance, or sent a cab for me to get to Hampstead from Chelsea, I’d see it as a massive red flag for someone who was extremely controlling.
‘There are certainly places where it would be poor form to leave someone standing on the street alone. Charing Cross Road really isn’t one of them.’
However some users seemed to take issue with being left to wait for a taxi alone, with one woman writing: ‘No, I wouldn’t see him again either. I have standards, and it’s just common courtesy not to leave your date standing like a lemon on the side of the road to swan off on your merry way.’
‘Christ what world do we live in? He should have seen she got off safely. People have very low expectations nowadays.’
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Over the course of the discussion it is made clear that the woman in question has no mobility issues or additional needs which would preclude her from getting herself safely into a taxi.
So, is waiting for a woman to get into a taxi chivalrous and appropriate? Or is it pandering and patronising?

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