(Picture: Getty)When we heard that a man wanted to name his daughter after his ex-girlfriend a few months ago, we were shook. Does he still love her, we asked?
But apparently, men wanting some sort of connection to their ex-partners through their children is not a new or unique thing.
One man has decided that he wants to give his unborn daughter a name that he and his ex-girlfriend picked for their own children.
The man’s current wife revealed the whole thing on Reddit, horrified at the thought of giving their future daughter a name picked by another woman who’s had sexual relations with her husband.
And to top it all, the name wasn’t casually suggested by the husband either, he was assertive and insisted that they call their daughter Addie Mae.
The wife revealed that she had suspicions he was still in touch with the ex and so decided to go through his messages.
She found that the pair didn’t have any contact but once she scrolled up, read the words: ‘If we end up getting married and having a little girl, can we name her Addie Mae?’
The woman revealed that seeing those words devastated her. And we can see why.
(Picture: Getty)‘When we started talking about kids and names about two years ago, he said that he had a specific name picked out for a little girl,’ she wrote.
‘I’ll just say it’s “Addie Mae.” I loved the name and agreed. We both want a family, so “Addie Mae” had come up a lot in conversations as have ideas for boys names, number of kids, etc.
‘We are so excited to be parents so it’s not like we said it once and dropped it and never spoke of it again. We talked about it a lot.’
She revealed she wasn’t proud of snooping through his phone but had felt he was lying about talking to his ex.
The conundrum for her was that she wanted to confront him about the name but didn’t want to tell him she’d been on his phone.
But seeing the message left her upset and wanting a new name, she said.
‘I am so devastated and really angry. He never told me that his ex-girlfriend came up with the name, and that was what they were planning on naming their child. I want to call him out on it, but then I would obviously have to admit how I found it.
‘I was so instantly in love with the name and I’ve loved it for the last few years, so to suddenly change my mind would merit some questions from him about why.’
She asked Redditors what she should do and most recommended couples therapy and individual therapy for him.
Others said seeing as the original poster isn’t pregnant yet and the conversation is around their future children, the couple should hold off making babies until they sort their relationship out.
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