No one is impressed with man’s ‘how to be a good Muslim wife’ checklist

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No one is impressed with man's 'how to be a good Muslim wife' checklist



(Picture: Getty/Twitter)There are no shortages of men with bad takes on the internet.
Adding himself to that list is writer Nabeel Azeez. The author wrote a list of ‘what makes good Muslim wife material’ and people have not agreed with it.
He listed a number of requirements including: ‘Don’t be a feminist, be a hijabi (wear a headscarf), be a virgin’ and ‘be thin’.
The list has been slammed as misogynistic with many saying it enforced gender stereotypes and encouraged the policing of women’s bodies and actions.
Though some parts of the list aligned with Islamic practices, like praying five times a day and being modest, many felt that the other demands were unnecessary and represented a personal choice for women which do not automatically equate to someone being a good wife.
Nabeel has since deleted his tweet but not before followers were able to screenshot it and berate the writer.

The writer has since deleted the tweet (Picture: Twitter/https://twitter.com/Hajji_)Islam teaches modesty for Muslim men and women but does not have add-ons about wives having to be thin, feminine, non-feminist and the like.
Many felt Nabeel’s list was completely arbitrary and put Muslim women’s worth on their outward appearance, virginity and servitude.
Others had a problem with his prescribing faith for Muslim women as many argued piety is a personal choice and women should not be expected to be pious to appease their husbands but rather do it for God.
Writer Leyal Khalife said: ‘This is not to say he’s not authorised to have an opinion, but a checklist based on a degrading rhetoric that treats women as servants to men is not an opinion.
‘It is a compilation of gender-role stereotypes wrapped up in machismo and misogyny.’

You should worry about being a good HUSBAND material rather than lecturing anyone on how to be good wives (which compared to husbands they are; anyway)
— Jia.J (@FakharJia) May 2, 2019

how to be nabeel azeez:
– don’t
— saeen (@saeen90_) May 2, 2019

like it’s all well and good to have criteria for a spouse. and most certainly we are entitled to have our preferences – be they superficial criteria or otherwise.
but don’t call it ‘Muslim Wife Material’.
and keep it in your drafts folder. pic.twitter.com/TvabVnChFU
— Aa’isha ♠ce Ebrahim (@AceOvInsanity) May 3, 2019

One person wrote their own alternative list, saying: ‘Be mindful of Allah (God), with some knowledge and understanding. Have good manners. Give good counsel when necessary. Have patience and empathy. Correct with kindness when required. Forgive mistakes but never tolerate abuse.’
Others joked that if this was the definitive list, then they would definitely not qualify as good Muslim wife material.
Same.
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