Is it okay for a mother-in-law to kiss a baby on the lips?

Is it okay for a mother-in-law to kiss a baby on the lips?

(Picture: Getty)A woman has divided opinions on Netmums after taking to the site to ask whether she was right to be annoyed that her mother-in-law keeps kissing her one and two-year-old children on the lips.
Annie, a mother-of-two, said: ‘I guess I notice it and it stands out to me because no one else I know does this and myself and my other half don’t even kiss our kids in this way.
‘She wears lipstick as well.
‘I mean I’m not suggesting there’s anything dodgy with her doing this but I’m not easy with it.

(Picture: Getty)‘My kids squirm as well. But I’m not sure what I can do or say.
‘We don’t have a close relationship and my partner also doesn’t have an easy relationship with his parents.
‘If either of us were to comment it would likely blow up into a massive thing.
‘What does everyone think about this kind of thing, has anyone had anything similar?’
Some people have been on Annie’s side, saying they can understand why she feels uncomfortable by this.

(Picture: Getty)One mother wrote: ‘Yeah I remember my gran doing this to me when I was younger and I hated it. Neither my mum or mil feel impulsed to do the same with ds though.
‘In your situation I would make a light hearted comment that I don’t think ds/dd really likes being kissed on the lips.’
Another said: ‘I wouldn’t like this at all! I don’t kiss my children on the lips so I don’t want anyone else doing it.
‘I made it clear to every single family member that I didn’t want them kissing my baby when she was first born as I was afraid of the herpes virus that can make them really ill.
‘I think that because of this they are still weary about kissing her as she is still only 9 months. Can you ask your 2yo if they mind it? If they say they don’t let it tell them to tell her to stop and that way you don’t have to say anything.’

(Picture: Getty)However, others said the mother-in-law wasn’t doing anything wrong.
One person wrote: ‘I don’t see an issue with it, but I kiss my 2 year old on the lips and so he’s quite happy to kiss grandparents on the lips. My mother in law wouldn’t do it, I get the impression she probably didn’t kiss her children. But my family see it as normal.
‘Morally, there’s nothing wrong with it imo so I would let it go rather than upset someone. But it’s up to you.’
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Someone else added that it’s all about the children’s consent: ‘We kiss on the lips, so I would have no issue with that. However my children have the choice – if they don’t want to kiss someone then that is their right and they are never forced to do it.
‘That would be my issue, if the kids don’t want to kiss and are clearly uncomfortable then they shouldn’t be kissing. They should feel that they can say no.
‘Teaching about consent starts young and they should absolutely feel they can say no to someone kissing/cuddling them.’

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