Couples taking ‘make or break’ holidays after three months together

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Couples taking 'make or break' holidays after three months together



Honey, let’s go on holiday to find out if we should be together (Picture: Ella Byworth for Metro.co.uk)A new relationship takes time to blossom.
The honeymoon period, which takes place during the first few months, gradually fades into a new, better stage where you both feel safe and secure. There’s bound to be some minor arguments, as well as testing times, but this is only natural and hopefully it will only bring you closer together.
However, research has emerged which shows some couples may not be giving themselves all that long to work out the kinks in their relationship.
What’s more, they are testing the waters by going on ‘make or break’ holidays.
According to a recent survey by Sandals Resorts, which included 2,000 participants, one in four couples go off on holiday together after three months or sooner. Out of these couples, 20% do so with the purpose of finding out whether they are really suited for each other.
The ‘make or break’ trip usually lasts around seven days, though one in eight couples go for two weeks.
There are some benefits to going away with your partner; the survey found that three in 10 people have more sex with their other half on holiday compared to at home, and nearly half (40%) said this strengthens their feelings towards the other person.
And for 25% of couples the romantic holiday vibe continues for two weeks after they get back home.
In fact, one in 10 claimed they decided to move in together after the trip, one in eight decided to get engaged or married and 10% of participants said they felt inspired to start a family while they were away.
Take these findings with a pinch of salt and bear in mind that the survey covered a wide age range, from 18 to 55.
However, it does raise an important question: is it healthy to put this level of pressure on a new relationship?
Should a holiday be ‘make or break’ after just three months, when you’re still getting to know each other?
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‘There’s no harm in pressure-testing a relationship, and we all have a tendency to do it from time to time, to assess whether or not our bond with our partner is true,’ Stu Nugent, relationship and sex expert at LELO, tells Metro.co.uk.
‘Putting a little pressure on a relationship is only a problem when it’s done surreptitiously. That’s when issues of suspicious and jealousy can creep in, and that usually manifests itself in manipulation, mind games, and point-scoring.
‘Since no relationship is black and white, the question, for me at least, is not “is an early test, like a holiday together, healthier than investing a lot more time in it only to eventually discover that it was toxic all along?”. Moreover, is it worth throwing away a relationship in the early stages and wondering forever if it might have turned into a slow-burning but deeper romance later on?
‘Stress-test your relationship every now and then, but not so much that it interferes with the relationship itself. No one likes to feel like they’re being assessed and scrutinised all the time – that can drive good people away.
‘All relationships, regardless of the various dynamics, are essentially founded on mutual compromise and contribution. Sex and holidays are excellent ways to quickly determine if someone is willing to compromise and contribute to be with you.’
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