(Picture: Getty)Everyone knows that if you want to let the world know you’re pregnant, you open up your jacket to reveal a baby bump, then cradle it in a way that suggests that ‘yes, there is a baby in here and not just a large burrito’.
Think of Beyoncé announcing she was pregnant with Blue Ivy at the 2011 VMAs.
Once the announcement is done, it makes sense to keep touching and holding the baby bump. There’s a baby in there! You’re proud and protective.
But are their certain situations in which you shouldn’t be so touchy-feely? Are there times you should pose without drawing any attention to your bump?
One bride has asked such questions on Reddit, asking whether she was reasonable in telling her bridesmaid to stop holding her belly during the wedding photos.
On a throwaway account, the bride wrote: ‘I got married three weeks ago and one of my bridesmaids is about 7 months pregnant (let’s call her Kate).
‘Kate’s belly was easily accommodated into the dress style because it had quite a flowy skirt with a fitted bust.
‘Between the ceremony and reception, we had a few hours worth of professional photos taken with just the wedding party.
‘In one of the first photos I noticed Kate was deliberately holding her belly so it was really obvious in the fabric of her dress (think basically every maternity shoot photo ever taken).
‘I asked her to stop holding her hands to show off her belly and to just pose like everyone else. I had to remind her a few more times before we’d finished taking the wedding party photos.’
So according to this version of events, this was no casual belly rubbing but a very obvious cradle.
(Picture: Getty)The woman explains that when she returned from her honeymoon, the bridesmaid was ignoring her texts and calls.
She writes: ‘Today another of my bridesmaids confirmed that Kate is pissed at me because I was ‘trying to make her look fat, not pregnant’ during the photos.
‘Now I’m annoyed because I paid a lot of money for a wedding photo shoot, not maternity pics.’
The bride took to Reddit to find out whether she was in the wrong for asking her bridesmaid to stop holding her bump in the photos. She ended up being voted ‘not the A-hole’.
Redditors responded to say that no matter how happy the bride may be for her bridesmaid and her pregnancy, the wedding photos are about one thing: the wedding.
One wrote: ‘Those are your wedding photos, and there is absolutely no reason someone should be deliberately showing off their ‘baby bump’ to take away from the bride in a photo.
‘If she didn’t feel comfortable in the dress, she could have opted out of being in the wedding.
‘But making the photoshoot about herself and demonstrating her pregnant belly is not acceptable in a wedding photo. When you look back at the photos, you want to remember the happy times between you guys, not be distracted by her “on display” baby bump.’
Some people encouraged the bride to view things from the bridesmaid’s perspective.
One woman who was pregnant as a bridesmaid responded: ‘I held my belly in many pics because I was self conscious. I in no way was trying to steal attention, and it’s likely your friend wasn’t either.
‘As long as you asked nicely, you’re not an asshole. They’re your pics and you have every right to have them look the way you want.
‘If you berated and embarrassed her in front of everyone, you’re an asshole. If she was shitty on your wedding day over a polite request, she’s the asshole. This could really go either way.’
Another mum explained that cupping the baby bump feels like a natural way to rest your hands when you’re pregnant, and that the pose likely wasn’t intentional.
‘I did it all the time the last few months I was pregnant,’ they said. ‘Whether it was just a comfy place to put my hands, or I was subconsciously trying to hold or protect the baby, I don’t know, but I literally did it all. the. time.
‘Maybe she truly didn’t realize she was even doing it and was just embarrassed that the bride kept calling her out?’
Someone else agreed: ‘As someone who was very recently pregnant, I can tell you I posed with my hand on my bump in every picture I took. I put my hand in my bump when I went out in public. Because it sucks being giant, and yes, you want people to know you are pregnant and not just huge.
‘Posing like that is not trying to make it into a maternity shoot, unless she pulled the camera person aside and asked to take pictures of herself with her bump.
‘She was just trying to feel halfway decent about herself in the pictures. It sucks being pregnant. I agree that if you needed everyone to do the same pose, she should have followed suit, but don’t assume that she was trying to make it all about her. She was probably just trying to make it through the photoshoot without crying.’
Interesting. So, what do you think?
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