Top 7 Trending Reasons Why Some Relationships Don’t Work

February 6, 2015 6:41 am
It is so unfortunate that some relationships don’t work.So many reasons can be ascribed to it.  Is your relationship making you unhappy? If you feel content and
positive, it is likely you are in a happy and healthy relationship.
However, sometimes relationships can turn sour and you can be left with
no idea what to do, or who to turn to.

  Below here are seven reasons why some relationships just don’t work.
1. They have a relationship checklist.

While it is important to learn what you like and dislike in a
relationship, a great relationship is based in the heart rather than the
mind. Creating a list of qualities a partner must have leads to high
expectations and demands, and often takes away a lot of surprise and
fun. Believe in your intuition and get rid of the list.

2. They are overly critical to each other.

Honesty is important in a relationship, but being with someone who is
extremely critical can lower your self-esteem and make you feel
depressed. Critical behaviour includes insulting your weight, height,
appearance, friends, style or job, while making you feel worthless. Ask
yourself: are these comments honest, or unnecessary?

3. They don’t deal with jealousy.

Relationships should be supportive and loving. However, jealousy can
often rear its ugly head in relationships. Some of the main warning
signs are: acting irrationally angry when the other person receives good
, such as making a new friend or finding a job, demanding to know
personal or private information,
being angry if their partner talks to the opposite sex, or irrationally accusing them of lying or cheating.

4. They think that honesty is not important.

Telling a white lie won’t end a relationship, but dishonesty about
important issues shows a lack of respect for your partner’s feelings.
Continued dishonestly leads to mistrust, upset and anger, so it is
important to be open during difficult times. In a strong relationship,
you should be able to say yes to both of these questions: do I trust my
partner to be honest? Can my partner expect the same of me?

5. They blame each other unfairly.

Blaming someone constantly and without reason is emotional abuse, and
often the person being blamed starts to believe they are in the wrong,
making them feel guilty and upset for not thinking themselves “good
enough.” It is important (and emotionally mature) to take responsibility
for our own actions, and to treat the person you are in a relationship
with respectfully.

6. They are emotionally immature.

Relationship maturity doesn’t come with age; it is a willingness to work
at a relationship, accept blame, and compromise. Beware of starting a
relationship with someone who gets angry over nothing. At the beginning
of a relationship, most people try their hardest to avoid fights, so be
aware of how they behave in certain situations, or how they treat other
people. Sometimes emotionally immature people are willing to learn how
to mature and grow, but be careful, pushing or forcing someone to change
is also immature.

7. They just want to control each other.

Being in a relationship with someone who is controlling is often
emotionally exhausting. Trying to please a controlling person is
difficult, as they often want you to live life by their rules, not your
own, which can leave you feeling unfulfilled. Watch out for these signs:
they tell you how to dress or act, they check your phone or emails,
they show up at your home without being invited and they may go through
your belongings without permission.

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