(Picture: Ella Byworth for Metro.co.uk)Sex is a wonderful thing. The feeling, the emotion, the passion, the intimacy.
Sure, lots of us have had awkward experiences, but we’ve also had amazing ones.
An incredible sexual experience doesn’t just mean intercourse. It means sexual intimacy in general – from kissing, to touching, to foreplay, to full-blown sex.
We all have our own ideas as to what makes an amazing sexual experience, and we spoke to 14 people who were happy to tell us theirs.
Here’s what they said.
This guy’s best sexual experience was going down on a woman
‘My best sexual experience was licking out a woman for the first time. It felt great because I’d never felt or tasted anything like it and I was pleasing her in a completely different way.
‘It was nice to give oral instead of receiving it for once.
‘The feel of the vagina and the different things I could do was amazing. Favourite part is tongue f***ing.’
Consent is sexy!
‘Best sexual experience: when my boyfriend asked ‘are you sure?’ before our first time. I realised in that moment that no one had ever actually asked me that before. Consent is sexy.’
Best sex ever? A random hookup
‘I’ve only had sex once and it was a fairly random hookup abroad. I actually got more pleasure just from kissing an making out as opposed to the actual intercourse which we later had – that was still good but just the making out was amazing!
‘It’s the only time I’ve ever even been physically intimate with someone and I guess throughout my life before then I’d imagined a lot about what “sex” would be like, but had never really thought about kissing.
‘It just felt more intimate.
‘My mind was completely focused on that and nothing else, the world may as well have just come to a standstill. It was completely exhilarating.
‘So far I’ve never been able to experience that feeling again.’
(Picture: Ella Byworth for Metro.co.uk)‘She blindfolded me and tied my arms back’
‘My partner hated me having my eyes open, so blindfolded me and tied my arms back so I had no idea where she was going next.
‘She teased me all over before taking the driving seat and every touch, kiss and sensation was magnified so much because of the loss of one of my senses. This was over ten years ago and I’ve never forgotten it.’
‘My best experience was with a best friend’
‘Best experience was with a best friend of mine. It came after a breakup and I hadn’t been with anyone for over a year. It was incredible and we just connected. Nobody has come close since.’
‘Sex is now being rebuilt in my mind as a positive and emotionally fulfilling thing’
‘After two frightening experiences during sex including rape, I was struggling with the concept of penetration. My current partner and I took things very slow (I didn’t explain until after we started having penetrative sex why I was ‘funny’ about it) and he couldn’t have been more supportive.
‘Sex is now being rebuilt in my mind as a positive and emotionally fulfilling thing.’
This guy gave his girlfriend an orgasm without even touching her…
‘My best experience was the first time I gave my girlfriend a leg shaking orgasm, by kissing her.
‘She literally went weak at the knees and had to sit down. It was the first time I had done this for somebody and I felt quite proud of myself, especially since I’d always assumed I’d be a bit rubbish at that sort of thing.
‘I’m happy to say that it wasn’t the last…’
(Picture: Ella Byworth for Metro.co.uk)‘We watched the sunrise’
‘It was definitely the night my now wife and I literally just held each other all night after a wedding we attended, staying in a very rural guest house, never closed the curtains and watched the sunrise.’
Dogging is apparently very erotic…
‘Dogging. It was very, very erotic watching others touching my then partner.
‘I got so turned on I actually had my first bi experience.’
‘A four day fling in San Francisco’
‘A four day fling in San Francisco. Initially I felt overwhelmed as he paid attention to every inch of me and I’d grown up with guys who are not as passionate or complimentary, but once I’d let go I felt so beautiful during sex with him.’
Doing it in the rain sounds like a romantic movie
‘I’ve only been with one person but doing it in the rain was probably my best experience. The most sensual and romantic experience I’ve had.’
‘I had sex with a ghost’
‘I did believe I had sex with a ghost at one point. It was the most intense orgasm I ever had.’
Women explain why they’re not into it (Picture: Ella Byworth for Metro.co.uk)This sounds amazing
‘A thunderstorm breaking out in the middle of us having sex, and this huge crash of thunder whilst I climaxed and then one of those really long flashes of lightning as I finished – it was ethereal and otherworldly and the best most intense thing ever!’
Sex with no orgasm
‘I have orgasmed multiple times during sex, but my best sexual experience was actually a time when I didn’t climax.
‘It was so intimate, there was a lot of kissing and we were touching each other non-stop. We were doing it at the same time and were both listening to what each other’s bodies wanted, which made me feel totally connected to him.
‘After a lot of foreplay – which I think always makes sex better – we had very passionate sex. Funnily enough it was only missionary, and a lot of people would say that was boring, but with that position there’s this sense of closeness that you don’t get with other ones, and it’s the position that feels the nicest for me.’
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