(Picture: Ella Byworth for Metro.co.uk)Have you ever been unceremoniously blown off, dumped or ghosted without understanding why?
While most of us will comfort ourselves with the thought that the other person couldn’t handle our awesomeness or that it was a question of compatibility, the real reason could – depressingly –be much more inconsequential.
It could be as simple as that you had an annoying habit that put them off or said something that was a deal-breaker (and we’re not talking about big statements such as ‘I want five kids before I turn 35’).
We ask 12 people to reveal the reasons they stopped dating someone – prepare yourself for a whole new level of honesty.
I have dumped so many people for inconsequential things.
One guy wore too many Hawaiian shirts and it grossed me out.
Also my first boyfriend didn’t know who Amy Winehouse or Margaret Thatcher were (obviously unrelated), but I was just like: ‘Oh my god, I am with a dumbass’.
This boy I was dating right before uni was super dreamy.
I had fancied him for years and all my friends did too – he was a total babe.
So I was very excited when we started seeing each other, except that when he hugged me, he made a weird high-pitched giggly sound (like the laugh of that dude in Spy Kids).
It was very off-putting – not enough for me to stop me seeing him, but enough to make me not want to hug him.
Uni got in the way of our blossoming relationship in the end, but I can still hear the giggle every time I think of him.
One was impossibly bad at hand jobs – like pulling a fire hose from a reel – and that put me off quite dramatically.
Another one had a lisp and sort of googly eyes, too.
We dated for three weeks. When I ended things I just told her I wanted to go on a break because she was going on holiday for three weeks.
There was this guy who told me he didn’t think that it was possible for men to be feminists.
He wasn’t saying it maliciously; he genuinely couldn’t get his head round it.
So I said thank you, next.
I didn’t properly date him but but I did sleep with him – he was still hot.
(Picture: Ella Byworth for Metro.co.uk)Ellen, 26
When Tulisa from N Dubz dyed her hair, he thought she was a different person.
He literally said he liked ‘the old singer’ better and couldn’t understand why they replaced her. He didn’t understand the concept of hair dye, and didn’t even seem puzzled by the ‘two singers’ sharing the same name.
We actually continued to date because I was trying not to be judgemental, but the relationship rotted from its core as a result.
There was a girl I went on a date with a few months ago, who works for the same company as me.
She was super cute and fun, but I didn’t really know her that well.
It was a fun night, but towards the end she started telling me how she never shaves her armpits or uses deodorant. She was wearing a small t-shirt and after that I could kind of tell.
We still talk and see each other from time to time, and all I can think about is how much hair is going on underneath.
But hey, it’s 2019 – she can do what she wants.
For me, the worst was someone who did nothing but talk about his ex.
That was super off-putting and I ghosted him after the first date.
One girl said she preferred Suits to Mad Men and that was it.
We’d only met once or twice at this point, but it was a bit of a ‘we’re not compatible’ sign.
I broke up with someone because they ate really, really loudly!
We dated for four months.
I tried to put up with it, but it made me die inside every time we went for dinner or he chewed gum.
There are so many simple things that annoy me on dates; looking at their phone too much, talking about themselves without asking me questions about my life and being rude to retail or serving staff.
And there was one guy, though I didn’t date him (he was just a friend of a friend) who used to constantly sniff the air – and it drove me nuts.
I’ve stopped dating guys for lots of different reasons: bad kisser, bad lover in bed, eating with his mouth open and being too noisy.
The latter I just can’t deal with.
The classic: couldn’t stop talking about work.
He was a civil servant in the treasury and so focused on work that he asked me what pay grade my aunt came under, after I mentioned she was a prison officer.
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