Amazing fabulous ceremony of 40 year old Lady Yasmin Eleby that Married Herself (Photos)

January 27, 2015 10:49 pm

According to BlackArtinAmerica, it was a dream wedding. Complete with a
fabulous candlelit ceremony and heartfelt vows to forgive, honor and
love herself. promised herself that if she hadn’t found a
mate by the time she was 40, she would marry herself, and she kept her
promise.


For the ceremony, Yasim chose to have one of her sisters who is a
minster, help her say vows, in a spiritual ceremony – because you can’t
legally marry yourself in America. She says the best part of
her special day was having her family there to “stand
up” for her. Her other three sisters were bridesmaids and her mom gave
her away; or back to herself in this case.

  • How did Yasmin spend her honeymoon?

Details on how this union was consummated, the website says, will remain
private, but Yasmin loves to travel. She plans to visit Cambodia, Laos,
and the jazz festival in Dubai this year, her extensive plans are to
serve as a honeymoon. See more pics from the wedding below:
On January 3rd, Houston woman Yasmin Eleby married herself after finding
herself still single at 40. She got a lot of bashing from the online
community for marrying
herself. Many didn’t agree with her methods and slammed her for it, many
others mocked her. Well, Yasmin has clapped back at her critics, and
says she doesn’t regret her decision…

“The ceremony is not about me being bitter for not having a man. It
wasn’t like, “OK, I’m upset that I’m 40 and don’t have a man.” I wanted
to show myself my self-love, my self-worth and my self-respect. It was
always about me loving me. When God sends me my husband, he will come,
but until then, I’m OK with it just being with me.” Continue

Yasmin sat down with The Root to discuss why she did it and why her family and friends didn’t stop her…
  
Yasmin Eleby: For a few years
leading up to my 40th birthday, I’d been joking that if I didn’t have a
wedding by 40 that I would just have one myself without a groom. I
thought having a wedding ceremony would be a unique way to celebrate my
40th with my family and my friends. And the closer that it got, I
realized I had to put up or shut up.

The Root: I’ve been reading the reactions to all the stories on
you, and a common comment is, “Where were her friends? They didn’t stop
her!” When you told your friends—like, “Hey, guys, I’m going to have a
wedding and marry myself!”—what did they say?

Yasmin Eleby: Some of them didn’t believe me.
They thought I was joking, but once I explained to them what it would be
about, they were supportive.

The Root: When the invites for the ceremony went out to guests, what was their response? 
Yasmin Eleby: Not very many people knew it was a
wedding. It was kind of a surprise. The invitations just said come
celebrate my birthday in a unique way. I invited two of my exes. They
were both happy for me. They were excited about it once they got there
and realized what was happening. 
The Root: A lot of people have assumed that marrying yourself was an act of desperation. What exactly was the ceremony about for you? 
Yasmin Eleby: The ceremony is not about me being
bitter for not having a man. It wasn’t like, “OK, I’m upset that I’m 40
and don’t have a man.” I wanted to show myself my self-love, my
self-worth and my self-respect. It was always about me loving me. When
God sends me my husband, he will come, but until then, I’m OK with it
just being with me.
The Root: What vows did you take during the ceremony? 
Yasmin Eleby: The first one was about forgiving
myself. We’ve all made mistakes. I had to realize that if I ask for
forgiveness, then it’s done. I don’t have to keep dwelling on the past. I
can let it go. My second vow was to honor myself as a beautiful,
fabulous being, conscious of making decisions for myself and to honor my
self-worth. The third vow was love. I made a promise to love myself and
to know that the more love I have for myself, the more love I have to
share with others. 
The Root: This all sounds so sweet, but it’s
been received in a much different light. What do you think of the
reactions to your ceremony? 
Yasmin Eleby: It has been blown way out of
proportion. From the few comments that I’ve read, they’re trying to
paint me as crazy or bitter about not having a husband, and that is so
not the case. I’m not bitter, I‘m not crazy. I’m just a fun-loving
unique individual, and I just wanted to do something special and
different. 
The Root: In hindsight, do you have any regrets about the ceremony?
Yasmin Eleby: Not one.

This is very interesting…what do you say about this, guys? Would you
ever encourage anyone to follow in her footsteps or is it too weird?
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